Improve your manager skills
There has been written a lot about coaching recently but many people still don’t know what is Coaching and how to apply it.
There could be many reasons for this situation. One of them is probably that many authors write about what coaching is not. Or they describe the difference to other approaches, such as mentoring, counseling or teaching. Then you know something more about Coaching, but you still have no clear idea of what it actually is.
Some misunderstanding may also derive from the proliferation of close models around which are intended to be the source of coaching.
As a result, managers, highly motivated to introduce the coaching approach into their business processes and enrich important management skills, often don’t know where to start, or feel that it is too far to reach and they get stuck in the very first intent. And indeed, effective Coaching requires several capabilities and well-developed skills, like listening, questioning and being present in the moment. However the process itself can be pretty easy, and most of these competencies already are standard skills of a manager.
Getting started in Performance Coaching
One good example might be the GROW model of Coaching, which can be found in one of the most influential books on this topic written by Sir John Whitmore: Coaching for Performance.
This model basically consists of 4 steps which are represented in its letters: GROW (Goal – Reality – Options – Way Forward). This model was meant to be very simple, but the more you want to stick it as a theory (and obviously an entire book about 4 steps provoke a more complex perspective) you might get confused about it and get lost in it, thinking about what are the best coaching questions to ask.
Nevertheless things get much easier when you focus on it what it actually is: a process of 4 different steps following a logical pattern of how to achieve your goals. Just feel into it and then use your own language to keep it simple as it was meant to be. The key is to lead a person through a mental process by asking rather than giving pre-conceptualized answers as we are used to do.
This simple form of Coaching can be used in hundreds of situations, just try it and get better in it one by one. Try to look at it as a simple way of to get benefits the next time you need to improve performance or when someone asks you for help to get solve a problem. It is likely that you will experience by your own the power of Coaching, the effect of thinking out of the box, how learning takes place and the easy way how people get committed to the desired outcomes.
Again, like any other approach, the best way to learn Coaching and therefore know what it means, is by doing it. The more you practice the better you get. TRY, and find it out by your own, what it is that makes Coaching extremely effective and how you can use it in everyday life. START, by doing it your way, using your own language and NOTICE the differences you make.